I hope this person doesn’t mind me linking their post (let me know if you do, those-atomic-bombs), but I found it today….I agree with it & would like to expand upon it.
Before I get into that though, I will say that I don’t normally make posts about hate in the tag because, frankly, I don’t care that much. People are free to express their opinions & there will always be varying views on controversial topics like Columbine. Unless I have something to say, it’s easier/less time-consuming to to just scroll on past the hate or click ignore. I try to make my blog informative & keep my “fangirling” for Dylan to a minimum. I just felt like making a post about this. It will most likely be a one-time thing. And finally, I had to use the term haters (lol) for lack of a better word.
Anyway, here’s my response to the above link:
"either way, i will never understand why people can’t just be like “well, that’s weird to me and i don’t understand it, but whatever, i cant force them to not like what they like. no use in being a cunt. off i go, back into my hole”
^Exactly. I like that.
I don’t know if any of the other mass murderer/serial killer tags/blogs get alot of hate. Although I’m interested in others, I don’t check them that much. I think “haters” that come into the Columbine tag probably a) are blissfully unaware that these types of “fandoms” exist and/or b) really think that those w/ that interest will go on to harm themselves or others and/or c) automatically equate an interest/attraction/connection with condoning murderous actions. If their problem is “a” then, it’s exactly that—their problem. When they gain a little more experience in/knowledge of the world, they’ll find out that all kinds of things exist—some bad, some good, some both, some neutral. If their problem is “b” then what sense does it make to bitch/belittle? If you really thought someone was actually going to harm themselves/others, wouldn’t it be more effective, not to mention more polite, to reach out & offer support? Of course, every now & then we get a few good-intentioned visitors who tell us something to the effect of we “need jesus.” That’s fine & dandy, but I figure Jesus is very busy helping people all over the world w/ their problems (& is still apprarently trying to figure out how to help me w/ my other problems), so I’d feel like an asshole burdening him further by letting him know I read/watch videos/look at pictures/listen to audio about Columbine. If their problem is “c”—again, their problem. They are jumping to conclusions, & passing judgment on someone based on an internet profile.
There are people who condone murder/think it’s cool or what have you. There are people like that all over the world. I could go on a crusade against it & might accomplish some people changing their views, but I doubt I could eradicate it completely. The thing is, the “haters” go on this crusade on the internet. They’re just some random person w/ a computer & internet access voicing their opinions. And that’s fine. They have that the same as I do. It’s just that I don’t have the expectation of persuasion. I could go on & on about my fond feelings toward Dylan & the good qualities I think he had. People who already agreed w/ me would probably appreciate it. It may even get a few others thinking. But, I don’t expect everyone that stumbles upon my posts to suddenly have a change of heart & start liking Dylan. But that’s what alot of “haters” seem to think—that we will see their hateful posts in the tag or in an ask & suddenly “see the light” (aka change our opinions to theirs). I’m not going to change my interests/views & I can’t change my feelings just cuz some guy on the internet said I should. I may not be the brightest person in the world, but I have a mind & heart of my own.
My “favorite” thing is when they say things such as “Eric/Dylan would have killed you too” or “Dylan/Eric wouldn’t have liked you” etc. etc. It’s amazing how they can read minds & predict what could have been. I personally have no way of knowing whether the boys would have killed me or if they would have liked me or not. Guess my psychic intution must be off lol. They probably would not have liked me & would have killed me. But that’s just speculation, so it doesn’t really change anything. Then there’s “you didn’t really know him.” I’m painfully aware that I didn’t know Dylan in this life. I know I have little to go on & I’m aware that some of my feelings are based on what I think I know. Again, that doesn’t change anything.
The point of all of this (for the “haters”) is: at the end of the day, people like what they like. There’s not much you can do about it. I can understand calling someone out if they are being outright disrespectful—making fun of the victims, talking smack about the victims (i.e. saying they deserved it), saying shit to victims’ families, so forth & so on. I can understand being concerned that some troubled kid might try to emulate Eric & Dylan. But generalizing & bitching in a tumblr tag or sending a hostile message/ask isn’t the way to effectively address those issues. Go through the posts that you’re having a problem with & explain why it may be offensive. Go through the posts & let these troubled kids know they can drop you a line if they need someone to talk to (don’t be a predator of course, but then, you “haters” are good people, right?). If that takes too much time/energy, maybe it’s not that important to you after all. Maybe the best thing you could do then is mind your own business & worry about what affects your own immediate life.